10 Signs Your Best Friend Isn’t Really Your Bestie Anymore
The signs were way too subtle to notice at first…
You’ve been friends with this person since…well, forever! You couldn’t imagine going about your day without hitting her up on Instagram or Snapchat. Over the years, you’ve kind of become a bit codependent, but it’s not like you can help it! You’re basically twinsies! But lately, you can’t help but notice she’s been distancing a lot. Whenever she leaves town or she goes out with your group of friends, she totally excludes you. But before you ask her if she’s moving on from your friendship or if it’s all a big misunderstanding, check out these signs that could indicate your bestie is about to break up with you.
She Keeps Track Of Everything She Does For You
Keeping scores is something you do at PE class! Now, come on! When it comes to friendships, you shouldn’t waste your time keeping track of any favors you may have done for your friends, or how many times you’ve picked up the check or hosted a party at your place. If you two are actual besties, you’ll both appreciate the fact that you’re always there for each other.
She’s Jealous Of Your Other Friends
Ending a friendship can be just as heartbreaking as ending a relationship, so hold your horses until you figure out where you stand with your bestie. It’s only natural to want to hang out with other people too, but whenever you meet up with friends, she acts like she’s “losing you forever.” I cannot begin to even tell you how unhealthy that is. And even when you make the effort to include her in your plans, she always comes up with an excuse.
Nothing Matters But Her
You kind of feel like things are a little lopsided, as lately, nothing else matters but whatever’s going on with her life. She spends 40 minutes ranting about her boyfriend, but when you start to open up about your problems, she starts drifting away and can barely focus on what you’re saying.
She Takes Little Jabs At You When There’s A Guy In The Room
You don’t want to see it, but that big old red flag is waving in front of your eyes and you can’t ignore it anymore. Your bestie changes her entire attitude the second a cute guy is in the picture. It’s like she’s trying to get his attention by making you look like crap. She starts mocking you and taking little jabs every time you open your mouth…but the second he leaves, she goes back to being herself. It’s so confusing!
Her Body Language Is Off
She used to be super sweet when you first met. She listened to your stories and respected your opinions. She truly allowed you to express yourself freely and be 100% you. But now she can’t help but but roll her eyes, grin or smirk when you speak, almost as if it irks to hear your voice.
She’s Always Too Busy For You
You can’t help but feel like she’s always tired, busy, or she’s got some last-minute excuse to not show up to any of your girl dates. You used to do everything together, but now you’re lucky if you see her on Christmas or on your birthday! You can’t help but wonder why she always seems to find the time to see other friends but she’s always “super busy” when it comes to you. Hmmm.
It’s Always Her Way Or The Highway!
Relationships require a certain degree of compromise, and yes, that applies to BFF-type of friendships as well! You don’t have to see eye to eye or agree over every little thing in order to have a healthy relationship with someone. But your so-called bestie totally loses her cool whenever you disagree with her…even if it’s something as silly as picking a restaurant to eat.
She’s Not Sharing Her Secrets
You found out she was about to start a new job through a mutual friend, and it kind of hurt. It’s like everybody knows what’s going on with her life except for you, but a few months ago, she’d message you every day just to let you know she was painting her nails a different color. Now she’s not even sharing any of the major things going on in her life. But you’re too afraid to ask her if there are any bad blood between you or you’re just imagining things.
She’s Not Herself
She’s always staring into the abyss when you’re talking. It’s like you’ve become strangers and you don’t even know how you ended up feeling this way. Plus, she never wants to hang out or do anything fun either. When you finally manage to drag her out of her home, she seems to be counting the minutes until your girl date is over. So what can you do if you notice your friend is drifting away?
Listen To Your Gut
You can’t help but sense that your bestie is just simply not that into you anymore. She’s not having as much fun as she used to. So it might be time to have a big old heart to heart and ask her to be honest. Who knows? Maybe she’s also been feeling left out or like you’re the one who was acting strange all along. Call your BFF now, and talk it out in person over a cup of coffee. After all, there’s always time to mend a broken friendship if it’s worth it.